I have my maiden name back!

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Last week I started the process of changing my last name back to my maiden name. When I first changed my last name it was such a breeze because I didn’t have very many legal things to change it on. Fast forward 3 years and now I have credit cards, vehicle registrations and insurance and so it was just a bit more terrifying this time around.

But thankfully it was still pretty easy. Everything is taken care of and now I have my “real” name back on my license. I immediately texted Wilson the good news, “I got it!! I have my new license!” He was excited too… probably really happy that he didn’t have to see “that ugly last name” anymore lol

Something else I got back this week was my car! Last week I had to drop my beautiful car off at the shop because I was having problems with the push-button not wanting to work and my brake lights were coming on and off. I dropped it off last Friday and had to borrow my brother’s car over the weekend, which was nice of him but I was eager to get my car back. Thankfully by Monday afternoon the shop called me and let me know it was ready to be picked up! Just in time too, because I had a girls night with Karen from Karen Nerds Out and Danielle from From Girlie to Nerdy planned for Wednesday!

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All three of us met up to  paint Hogwarts! Karen made us all our very own Hogwarts letters and she brought us dark chocolate — yum! I am an awful painter but I still had so much fun. I texted Wilson my painting saying, “Look at my painting, it’s so bad but I had fun!” He was sweet though and said it looked beautiful. Haha what a little liar, but it made me smile. 😉

Wilson and I hung out on Friday night but he’s been away the rest of the weekend with work stuff so I’ve been enjoying my solo time at home. I’ve been writing blog posts, (still) editing photos from Wrestlemania and doing a lot of reading. I’m almost  done with “Wild” by Cheryl Strayed and today I ordered “Me Before You” by Jojo Moyes. I know the movie is coming out soon and it looks like a sweet movie, so I want to read the book first! I love book to movie adaptions! They are my favorite!

Now that I have my name stuff taken care of I feel like I can finally RELAX!!

Dear blog, a lot has been going on

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The last four weeks have been insane. Today is the first time in (what seems like) a long time that I felt like sitting down at my desk and actually writing a blog post.

I went to a quincenera party in late March, which was fun — I hadn’t been to a quincenera party in a long time, but the next day (Easter Sunday) I had to work! I got paid double that day, which was nice, but it still sucked. The following weekend is when I headed off to Texas with Wilson, who by the way is now my boyfriend. Hehehe. I’m so happy! We met in December and had been hanging out and talking and going out on dates since then, it’s nice to finally be able to call him my boyfriend instead of just my “good friend!” lol

When I got back from Dallas I was so sleep deprived. I was not sleeping enough in Texas, maybe getting 3-4 hours of sleep so I was exhausted when I got back to Florida. Then I got a fever and a sore throat. So that was fun… not! So basically all I did last week was sleep, sleep and sleep! Just as soon as I think things are finally calming down my mom got sick and I had to take her to the hospital (she is okay now) and then Saturday I had to work again… I had one day off and I spent it sleeping in a little and then hanging out with Wilson. Now it’s Thursday and I am ready for the weekend again!

Truthfully I’ve been slacking on more than just my blog. I haven’t been reading or watching very much TV. The only thing I watch regularly on live TV are the WWE shows on Monday and Thursday nights and I’m always on Hulu catching up with Total Divas and Once Upon A Time — which I am loving so much this season! I also started watching Digimon Tamers, what a wonderful, amazing and hilarious anime! I loved this show as a kid and I love that Hulu has it!

How has your week been so far? Do you have anything fun planned for this weekend? My plans are to just sleep (lol, can’t get enough of sleep!) and eat a lot of tacos with my boyfriend! 😉

I’m going to Texas!

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Two days after I went to see the Royal Rumble live at the Amway in Orlando I went online and bought my ticket for Wrestlemania 32. That was two months ago and now the weekend is finally (almost) here!!

This weekend I will be flying out to Dallas, TX with Wilson and we are both sooo excited. I have only been on an airplane once, when I was 17-18 with my mom when we flew to Mexico. I have been outside of Florida before with my family — on road trips to Mexico — but this will be my first trip outside of Florida without my family and I will actually be stopping and visiting a different state in the USA, something I’ve never done before (when we drive from Florida to Mexico we don’t make any stops except for bathroom breaks and to get gas… and our food is always a hot dog or a burger from the gas station.)

I’m nervous but also super excited. Definitely more excited than nervous. Thankfully Wilson is a frequent flyer so I’m glad he’ll be with me to calm me down while I have my nervous breakdowns at the airport lol

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The thing is, I’m going to Dallas this weekend and I still have no idea what to pack. I haven’t even started packing and I know that I need to because if I wait last minute I know I’m going to forget something. Thankfully I did buy a suitcase already, so at least I got that out of the way. I found it at Target for $70; I love the black and white stripes and that there was extra luggage inside!

I’ll be sharing photos on Instagram if you want to follow along since I definitely use my Instagram as more of a memory/photo album and I don’t have an artsy/cute theme… probably why my followers list doesn’t grow much but that’s okay. Do any of you have snapchat? I have an account but I currently just use it to snapchat with Wilson and my siblings but I would love to exchange usernames with my blog buddies! Let me know in the comments!

Date night at the fair!

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A couple weekends ago Wilson and I decided to go to the Central Florida Fair together. Neither of us had ever been to this fair so we thought it’d be fun to go. When I think of a fair the first thing I think about is a funnel cake! A funnel cake (which is the photo in the bottom left corner) is just batter deep fried and then sprinkled with powdered sugar, or whatever really. The one we bought was half cinnamon/half sugar. It was so good. So disgustingly greasy and fatty, but delicious. We honestly felt crappy after we ate it lol but in the moment we were like, “this is amazing!” which is prety much how it goes every time I eat a funnel cake. 😛

We didn’t get on any rides (fair rides scare me a little) but we had a good time just walking around, eating a funnel cake and some pizza! I think there’s another fair next month, but I won’t be going to it. I think one funnel cake a year is good enough for me. 😀 When’s the last time you went to the fair? Have you ever tried a funnel cake before?

I got divorced on Tuesday (and I have a new blog name)

new-domain-oh-hey-jessI got divorced on Tuesday, and it feels strange and great and wonderful — basically a whole lot of feelings wrapped together, it’s hard to explain. It’s strange because obviously no one gets married hoping they will get divorced… but shit happens and now I am legally single again.

I started dating before I was divorced and am still seeing the same sweet guy I previously blogged about (and the one you see pop up on my Instagram!) He’s great. Really sweet, very funny, he just gets me and I’m so happy when I’m with him… it’s crazy because I don’t have to try to be happy when we are together… I just am and I love it! :)

My blog is a huge part of my life and even though I wasn’t blogging on it since the beginning I have had pyreflies.org since 2012; in May 2014 I started blogging on The Pyreflies then switched over to Pyreflies.org in May 2015. It’s a domain that means a lot to me and for quite awhile I had been wanting to start a new blog but I could never convince myself to let it go and start a new one… that is until I got divorced.

Something about getting divorced and closing that chapter made me feel like I was finally ready and able to move on from Pyreflies.org… I don’t think I will ever let it die completely. I’ll probably still renew it every year. . .

So this is my blog now, Oh Hey Jess. I thought the name was cute. Simple, easy to remember. Honestly no one even calls me Jess in real life or online (lol) but I liked it for a blog name. (Okay I lie, my boss calls me Jess and my sweet guy does too sometimes!)

The only thing that’s changed is the URL and name. Oh Hey Jess will continue to be what Pyreflies.org was: a personal lifestyle blog where I share everything and anything that I want. I’m really excited about blogging again and hope you’ll join me as I share with you my random thoughts and adventures!

P.S. I know I’m behind on blog reading. I promise I’ll catch up soon! <3

How I started drinking more water

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For the past few years something that has always made it to my “Goals” list every new year was to “drink more water!” and every year I failed so horribly at this. I remember my diet consisting of a cup of orange juice every morning, one bottle of yellow Gatorade for the entire day and then one glass of lemonade with my dinner. No water. Ever. Because I hated the taste of water. I hated the taste of something that doesn’t even taste like anything, lol. I tried adding a lemon but the only time I would drink that was at restaurants when I was too cheap to spend money on a soda that I knew I wouldn’t finish.

I’m happy to say that I am now drinking 6 water bottles per day! They are 16.9 ounces each, so that’s 101.4 ounces each day! Some days I slack and I only drink 5, but I try my best to at least drink 6 full bottles. I want to keep drinking even more, but right now I am just happy I am actually drinking water!! Woo!

So how did I do it? Well, I didn’t download any app. I didn’t buy any fancy, cute water bottles. All I did was have a very serious talk with myself…

Me: Jessica. Do you want clearer skin?

Jessica: Yes, yes I do.

Me: Okay then get it together and drink the damn water!

Something to note is that I was buying purified water and water from ALDI because it was super cheap. But I never liked the taste of these water bottles. It wasn’t until I googled “I hate the taste of water” that I realized there are different types of water that have their own taste. So the next day I went to Walmart and bought a pack of Zephyrhills water (which is a brand of spring water here in Florida) and let me tell you, this water did NOT taste bad at all! I quickly became a spring water fan!

So the key for me was to set up a sort of schedule for drinking water. I have two 15-minute breaks at work (9:30am and 2:30pm) and a 30 minute lunch at noon. When I wake up in the morning I make a juice using my Nutribullet and then I open my first water bottle and I tell myself I have to finish it before my 9:30am break. I open my 2nd bottle and I tell myself I have to finish it before lunch at noon. I open my 3rd bottle and I tell myself I have to finish it before my 2:30pm break. 4th bottle I have until my shift is over at 4pm. 5th bottle I drink while I exercise and I finish with my dinner. 6th bottle I drink after dinner when I’m watching TV, reading a book or on the computer.

And that’s basically how I did it. I just made myself drink more water because I really, really, really want clearer skin. Some days the water bottles overlap and I may drink 3 before noon, or less before noon but I make up for the missed bottles later in the day. As long as I get 6 bottles in I am pretty happy! I am now a big water fan and carry a bottle with me everywhere I go! How much water are you drinking?

Animal Kingdom with my family!

While I enjoy going to Disney World alone, I decided to tag along with my family and go with them to Animal Kingdom last weekend!  I love this park, I would happily visit Animal Kingdom over and over again. It’s so shady, has so many pretty views and it has one of my favorite rides – Dinosaur!

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animal-kingdom-09animal-kingdom-01animal-kingdom-05animal-kingdom-02I made sure to take some snacks (an apple, some popcorn and a sandwich!) so that I wouldn’t get hangry. Because I get hangry and it’s not pretty. I usually get a headache when I go out with my family (lol, it’s a lot of people okay?) but thankfully I did not get one during this trip! I think taking the food really helped. I also bought some watermelon and a Mickey soft pretzel which was yummy. I had a really fun time! When we left we headed to Cici’s Pizza (a pizza buffet!) and I ate sooo much pizza, a salad, cinnamon rolls and brownies… I was pretty much the happiest girl in the world. 😀 How was your weekend!?

What I Watched… Lately!

I planned on doing these once a month but I skipped January and it’s already mid-February so I think it’s a little for a “What I Watched in January” soI’m just going to share with you what I’ve been watching the last couple of months!

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Jane the Virgin Season 1 (Netflix)

I loved this show from start to finish. It’s so unique and different than anything I have ever seen before. It’s funny, but has like a murder-mystery going on at the same time. It’s just very unique, cute and fun to watch. I definitely recommend this one! (Finished 10/10)

Reign Season 2 (Netflix)

I was SO happy when I saw that season 2 was finally available on Netflix. I binge-watched the new season and enjoyed every minute of it. I love the characters in this show so much, especially Catherine. She has got to be my favorite. I know season 3 is airing right now… sigh! I didn’t finish season 2 on time to watch the new episodes so I can’t wait for season 3 to get on Netflix! (Finished 10/10)

Agent Carter Season 2 (Hulu)

New episodes of season  2 are currently airing on Tuesday nights but I catch the episodes on Hulu the next morning. I love Peggy and I enjoy watching her be a bad ass babe in her beautiful outfits and great hair. Wish my hair looked as good as hers! (Currently watching)

Mistresses Season 1 (Hulu)

I like trashy TV, okay? I was looking for something easy/not-so-dark/dramatic to watch and honestly this caught my eye and a lot of seasons are available on Hulu so I thought “What the heck!” Not gonna lie, it’s pretty good. Still don’t really know what it’s about (lol) but it’s not bad. I’m going to keep watching. (Currently watching)

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The Bachelor Season 20 (Hulu)

20 friggin’ seasons and can you believe I have never seen a single episode of The Bachelor!? I saw this on Hulu one night and hit play and I got hooked. Ben seems sweet so of course I kept watching. Right now there are 4 girls left. I’m rooting for Amanda. Although I think her kids might end up being a deal breaker for Ben… but who knows. I’m just glad Olivia is gone, lol. (Currently watching)

Total Divas Season 5 (Hulu)

I talked about this show in my Royal Rumble recap… I am so in love with this show and I love seeing the Divas outside of the ring. Even if you don’t like wrestling, you should watch this show. It’s not a bunch of stupid, dramatic teenage girls getting drunk every weekend. These are grown, bad ass, strong women who really are an inspiration. Okay, and they’re dramatic too so hey, it makes for a good show. 😀 (Currently watching)

what-i-watched-lately-2I wrote about these two in my recap post in December (I had just started watching them.) When I finished Girlfriends Guide to Divorce I was just like, “What am I supposed to do now!?” It’s a really good show with great characters and story… definitely recommend it. As for Jessica Jones, sadly I gave up on that one. It just didn’t grab my attention as much as I had hoped. Honestly I just don’t think I was in the mood to watch something so dark and mysterious. I wanted something more fun and easy to watch (like Girlfriends Guide and Jane the Virgin!) I’ll give it another chance though later on, because I am sure it’s a great show!

Whew! So many different TV shows. I’m all over the place but that’s what I’ve been watching lately! What about you?

Date Night: WWE Royal Rumble

royalrumble03Have you ever seen a preview for a show and think, “Wow. That’s gonna get cancelled after one season!”  but then one day you’re bored as hell and nothing else is on tv except that show so then you watch the marathon they’re airing and all of a sudden you’re like, “Oh shit. This show is pretty good.” That’s what happened with me and Total Divas on E!

The show follows the behind-the-scenes lives of the women wrestlers in the WWE. They’re called WWE Divas (the name of the show made sense after I learned this. I thought they were just calling themselves divas, lol) I got my first taste of the WWE and I was digging it! The matches were fun to watch and the drama outside of the ring was even more entertaining.

When I met a certain somebody last year in December, he told me that he was a big WWE fan. I told him I wasn’t a “huge” fan, but that I liked watching Total Divas and that I did actually want to watch the WWE event happening in January at the Amway Center in Orlando. So we decided to make it a date and go together.

And it was so much fun!

royalrumble01The arena was packed, we had a good view and the entire thing was so much fun to watch. We had pizza before the event at a pizza place we found walking around downtown, it was delicious. And so cheap. $11 for two huge slices of pizza, a drink and some garlic knots! Say whut! I am so going back.

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It was my first WWE event that I had watched from start to finish. The atmosphere was crazy, the crowd really gets into it. I had no idea who a lot of the wrestlers were that were coming out, but hey – when you’re surrounded by a huge crowd of fans it’s hard to not get excited and pumped up.
royalrumble04Since the event I have been watching all of the WWE events on TV and me and Wilson have been texting each other during the shows. It was so much fun doing something new with someone who makes me super happy.

So that was my first big fun adventure of 2016. We are actually flying to Texas together in April to watch Wrestlemania! It’ll be my 2nd time on an airplane and my first trip outside of Florida! I have only been to Mexico, but never visited any other state so I am super excited!

Dating while going through a divorce

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I got married in April 2013, my ex and I split in October 2015 and in December we decided to file for divorce. My ex and I were together since we were 16 years old. 16 years old you guys. We were babies. I wanted to have that “high school sweethearts” fairy tale ending, with us dating throughout high school, getting married and having kids and all our old classmates going “omg! they’re still together!?” at our 10 year high school reunion. Obviously shit happens and things don’t always go as planned. And that’s okay. Because sometimes you gotta go through some pretty shitty times to really appreciate the good times that are coming. 

Even though we filed the papers, I am still as of today legally married and yes, I am dating someone new. Sometimes I wonder “Is it too soon?” and then I think back to the past year… all the fights, the arguing, the disrespect, the tears, the yelling, the fake smiles in public, the nights I slept alone, the meltdowns at work, the name calling, just all the pain and misery… it had been going on for over a year and even here on this blog I never mentioned it. I painted a picture that everything was okay. And sometimes it was, we would go a few hours without yelling but we always argued every day. Just because you go out, take a picture of the two of you smiling doesn’t mean you’re actually having fun. This is why social media can be so rotten to us, we only ever see the happy moments and the highs. We think someone has such a great life but we never really know what’s going on behind the Instagram photos.

From the beginning of October until the beginning of December I was solo. I did things on my own, went to Disney by myself, started drinking because I was stressed (I had never drank alcohol before) and was just trying to find myself. And I did! I realized that I am a very, very emotional person. I FEEL so intensely, whether it’s love, hate, jealousy, fear, passion, excitement…and also I NEED communication in a relationship. I learned that I love being alone. But I hate feeling lonely. That was so important for me to realize. And it’s crazy that I never really thought about it before, but it’s so true. I do not mind spending a Friday night alone in my room, watching TV or reading a book. What bugs me is when I feel like no one cares about me, or the thought of no one in this entire world thinking “I wonder what Jessica is up to.”

There were times where I would go the entire day without a text from anyone. And it sucked. It made me feel really, really crappy. It made me feel alone. And that is the worst feeling.

So you know what I did? I decided I wanted to meet someone new. I decided I wanted to meet someone who I could go out with and have fun with, make memories with, share my happiness with, someone who wants to be with me and talk with me, and ask me about my day… I wanted that. Is that so bad to want? I don’t think there is anything wrong with wanting to share your life memories and happiness with another human being. So instead of staying home and feeling lonely (and instead of going out and getting drunk) I decided to join an online dating website – cause why not? Legit, no lie, I met him the same night. How crazy is that?

I’ll write more about him another day since this post is so damn long already, but I just wanted to talk about where I am right now. I’m still legally married and I am dating a new guy. And yes he knows that I am still married. He knows I got married young (I was 20) and that some things just don’t work out. He’s really wonderful. I can’t wait to share more about him later on. He makes me so happy, and when I am stressed he eases my mind, and he makes me laugh so much. I find myself smiling at such random times now, because he’ll cross my mind.

Is it too soon? Maybe to the outside world who thought my marriage was fine it’s too soon. But to me — the one who was actually in the marriage and that went through all this shit — it’s not too soon. In my mind, it’s not even about a length of time between one relationship to the next. It’s about what feels right. And this feels right. I am happy. That is all that matters to me, because that is my goal for 2016. I don’t think I’ve shared it on this blog but I decided that my goal is to be happy. To be so damn happy every day of my life, not just in 2016. And I finally am… so why not go with the flow? We’re always told as little kids to follow our hearts and our dreams, and that’s what I’m doing. I can’t wait to share all these crazy, happy adventures with you all!